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RESOURCING

  1. Finding a comfortable place and way to sit
  2. Take a few deep breaths while letting go of any extra tension
  3. Gathering your attention into this moment
  4. Attend to your breathing for a few moments, noticing how naturally and easily it occurs
  5. Recalling an especially pleasant and calming experience in your life when you felt connected - - to yourself or to others or to the world around you
  6. Calling up the video of that experience, placing yourself back in that time by recalling when, where, what was happening, who else might have been present
  7. Rest in that place, exploring the details, taking it in for just what it was
  8. Noting the emotions and and sensations that arise, resting your attention on each
  9. After a few moments, bring your attention back to you breathing
  10. Stay with the breathing for about a 20 count
  11. Take yourself back to the pleasant experience, paying particular attention to the emotions and sensations
  12. Toggle back and forth a few times between the pleasant experience and current breathing, practicing being able to access the pleasant experience at will

Create 3-4 different such experiences that you can access easily in difficult moments

 

 

 

Several times over the past year we have talked about the Four Conditions of Being Human That Are Beyond Our Control AND What Happens Next Is Up To Us.

Here is a more in depth explanation. It can be explored at several levels. You will notice that in many cases a topic is treated in more than one section to allow for more in depth exploration. Generally, feel free to skip any sections that have too much detail for you.

OUR PERSONAL REACTIVITY
WHERE DOES IT COME FROM?

WHEN IS IT HELPFUL?

WHEN IS IT UNSKILLFUL?

HOW CAN WE MOVE BEYOND UNSKILLFUL REACTIVITY?

As human beings we can easily be caught up in Reactivity, which mostly reflects our basic animal nature. Very often our reactivity leads to a habit or pattern that supports a useful regular activity. Habits allow us to be more efficient, not having to relearn the basics every day. For example, when we are hungry we react by getting something to eat following some habit such as fixing or buying food. Or, when we need to go somewhere we react by getting in the car and following the habits of driving.

There are also times when reactivity leads to unskillful and hurtful words and actions for ourselves and others. When the outcomes of events are undesirable we may get angry or frustrated or depressed. We do not need to stay there; when we come to understand how much of that reactivity in any given moment is driven by conditions beyond our control and that we can learn to take responsibility for what happens next, there is a great sense of relief.

Much of how we are in any given moment is beyond our control: our basic human nature; our own unique make up, whether it is genes or family or cultural influences.

AND there is the opportunity to take responsibility for our thoughts and words and actions. We can take responsibility by practicing Mindfulness. That practice leads to creating enough SPACE between events and words or actions to open up choices that can lead to more skillful thoughts and words and actions; more than just being reactive, we can respond wisely.

Take a few moments to recall a recent thought or word or action that was disappointing for you, noting how one or more of the conditions beyond your control was in play and strongly influenced the result. Allow yourself to take a deep breath, let go a bit and feel some space for considering what happens next.

 

FOUR CONDITIONS OF BEING HUMAN
THAT ARE BEYOND OUR CONTROL
AND
WHAT HAPPENS NEXT IS UP TO US

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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